Mediation is an option chosen typically due to parties not being able to discuss and resolve issues adequately.This implies a need for parties to develop more Communication Skills. It is a process of coming to terms with what Is, the Reality of a situation. And in time, without pressure, finding a way for all parties' needs to be met. Resolution comes via the Process of Expressing and Listening Sanely, creating Clarity, Understanding & more Resolution In Mediation: One learns to identify, recognize & own one's triggers, thus taking responsibility for them. One gets to know oneself on a deeper level. Things are slowed way down through mediation. So that one can actually see, experience and recognize the subtleties produced via triggers. One comes to See: ~ Why and how it is that triggered energy comes from past repeated interactions & situations ~ That one lacks the capacity to speak with clarity and respect when triggered ~ Why Communication Breaks Down due to this.
Mediation is not looking to an outsider, a third party to manage the parties involved. Rather it is an Educating Process, a Learning Process, where each party learns to witness what is going on within themselves: One's Responses & Reactions to their own thoughts, feelings, emotions and to the thoughts, feelings, emotions of another. One learns what does not work; one learns to find & adjust to what does work. This is a process of becoming empowered, independent and effective in the face of adversity, conflict, challenge. This is a process which leads tothe capacity to mediate challenges oneself.